When I think of my Dad, I imagine him as my hero. I see his struggles, but most of all I remember the times he showed up. I remember the times he showed up to my graduation, and the time he called me from prison, just before it was time for me to walk down the wedding aisle; just to apologize and give me his blessing. I remember I cried inconsolably, because on the most important day my heart was heavy, as a result of missing his presence. Thankful, that God hears the depths of our heart, and he orchestrates things, and sets everything into motion, and his love compels the universe to answer even our most silent, deepest, and earnest prayers.
Both boys and girls need a father’s love. A father, who protects them, gives them a sense of identity, nurtures and cares for them, and helps them to reach their fullest potential. There is a longing on the inside of every little girl for a father’s love. There is a mirror reflection that little boys hope to see and mimic from their fathers. The sad reality is that many fathers have checked-out, abandoned ship, or they are too broken to be a positive influence in their child’s life.
It’s easy to focus on disappointments, but it is so much better to celebrate and remember when he kept his appointments, and went above and beyond the call of duty. God used him to seed me into the earth and I am grateful. If I view him in a negative context, it will affect how I view other men, but when I choose to see the goodness on the inside of him, I see him through the eyes of my heavenly father. I always, say that I inherited the best parts of him, but the truth is he invested the best parts of himself in me. There is still a yearning in me to sit at his feet and glean from his wisdom. Every boy or girl longs for their father. I love that God does not allow us to remain lacking, because he is a father to the fatherless.
Psalm 68:5 says “Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Lift up a song for Him who rides through the deserts, Whose name is the LORD, and exult before Him. 5A father of the fatherless and a judge for the widows, Is God in His holy habitation.
He fills the void in our lives, where our fathers were absent, lost, and missing.
As Father Day approaches, I hope you focus on the good memories and if there are none. Remember those people who God has sent in your life to help bridge the gap and fill the void, and remember the times that God has protected, cared, nurtured, and fathered you.